Difficulties in our sexual lives and relationships are much more common than we think. As a society we don’t know how, or learn how to talk openly about sex, which makes sex and relationship therapy a unique and confidential space to have those conversations. Sexual difficulties can have many causes. Their originins may be emotional or psychological, or a result of illnesss, surgery, disability, accident, medication.
• Erectile dysfunction
• Ejaculation problems such as rapid or delayed ejaculation
• Overwhelmed anxiety around sex, relationships and intimacy
• Sexual trauma
• Sexual abuse or assault
• Sexual health issues
• Compulsive sexual behaviours
• Vulval pain conditions
• Loss of desire and arousal difficulties
• Dyspareunia (pain during intercourse)
• Sexual orientation questions or insecurities
• Pornography issues
• Orgasmic or anorgasmic problems
• Sexual phobias or aversions
• Fears around lack of sexual experience
My approach is pluralistic and holistic, with an understanding that psychosexual issues are not just purely physical dysfunctions, but also both psychological and emotional. Depending on the nature of the issue and situation, sessions can be attended either by individuals and /or couples.
It is common for couples to experience difficulties in their relationship or marriage, which can result in each individual in the couple feeling unhappy, isolated, angry, bored or resentful. Going through a transition in the relationship, such as having children, or living busy lives, managing careers, not finding time for each other can affect the quality of the relationship of a couple, as well as their intimacy and sexual life.
• Difficulties with or lack of intimacy.
• Communication problems in a relationship, including frequent arguments, blaming, conflict.
• Differences in sexual desire within the relationship. It is perhaps one of the most common sexual problems with couples.
• Sexless relationship. Some couples lose the desire to be sexual with each other. It can be caused by various factors including living busy lives, having children, getting older, feeling stuck or bored within the relationship.
• Healing after the disclosure of infidelity. Infidelity has a tremendous negative impact on relationships, marriage and sexual lives.. The healing process and the re-building of trust and compassion can be long and challenging, but it is possible.
• Receiving or dealing with a spouse's diagnosis of severe or terminal illness. This can be one of the biggest stressors in a relationship, and couples often need support to go through this transition.
• Ending a relationship in a constructive way. Couples therapy can also help with ending a relationship. Ending a relationship in a meaningful and therapeutic way, with understanding, compassion and empathy, is important and a great gift of love to oneself.
Relationship problems can be explored in individual therapy, couples therapy, group therapy, intensive couples workshops and retreats. I work with individuals and couples of all sexual orientations, gender identities and sexualities.